Days of Fantastical Thinking

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There is an uncomfortable duality to living without my Square-Jawed NP.

I am trying so hard to come to terms with his sudden disappearance. What do I do with myself when the one person I would discuss this with is the one who’s gone?

I am left with Therapist Barbie, my sunny, 25-year-old counselor who advises me to do things like recite positive affirmations and keep a “feelings” notebook. Bitch, please. She is very good at listening, but she’s not like NP who knew to push and prod and cajole me into taking positive action. I am going to try to see her this week so I can wheedle some concrete answers out of her regarding what happened to NP. I’m pretty sure I can get her to spill.

I’m heartbroken about his disappearance. I have my information and reconnaissance tendrils everywhere searching for a single scrap of information but very little has come back so far. Nobody’s talking.

As of right now, I know this: he has not lost his license, but he is not returning to the practice where I was seeing him. In fact, according to my source, the exact phrase used was, (with emphasis): “No. He is NEVER coming back.” That specific emphasis on ‘never’ tells me two things: first, the person who said it (his colleague) is angry about NP’s departure; and second, his departure was not an amicable one.

My mind, of course, immediately thinks the worst: that NP either slept with or manhandled a patient. I sincerely hope not. And frankly, I don’t believe he would. Maybe that’s wishful thinking on my part though. I would like to believe that NP would never let such a thing happen. He has strict boundaries, as I’ve seen first hand. They’re in place for a reason. Why throw away six years of hard-won education, thousands in student loans, and a talented career for a bit of quick tail from your patient pool? (As I understand it, NP can get whomever he wants in abundance on the outside, and does.) But men have their weaknesses. I just hope that wasn’t it.

Of course there are plenty of other explanations. I know NP was busy opening his own practice. Maybe his contract had a no-compete clause and he was summarily fired after announcing it officially? I don’t know. Maybe he mis-prescribed medication. Maybe he slept with a staff member. Maybe a patient overdosed. Maybe a schizophrenic patient imagined he was making love to her through his eyebrows. Who knows?

My favorite theory is that, after finally getting the business license for own practice, he walked into the old office ready to quit, flipped them all the bird, and screamed, “See ya later,… fuckers!” And maybe that embittered therapist who emphasized the word “never” was a prude who holds him in contempt due to his profane language.

Sadly, I doubt it’s the latter. These things rarely are that fantastical. That type of contempt is usually reserved for those whose infractions are more grossly immoral or unethical.

So my feelers continue to be out in an effort to divine the truth. As soon as I know, you will know, dear reader.

In the meantime, I am at sixes and sevens. I miss him desperately. I’m worried for him. I don’t know what to do with myself. I feel rudderless — and without accountability. I go over every conversation we had looking for clues — and there have been some these last few visits. Reviewing my memory, he must have known this departure was coming. But if he did, why wouldn’t he tell me? Moreover, why would it happen like this? Yes, I know it’s none of my damned business, but a part of me demands answers.

Today, I took a drive up by his house. Now before you start screaming “stalker” at me, keep in mind that his house is on a main thoroughfare in a populous neighborhood. Yes, it’s 20 minutes away, but I, like many who live around here, might, possibly be innocently passing by to shop at the fashionable grocery store down the street from him. It could happen.

As I passed, there were no signs that he was home. I turned around and drove by one more time and, still finding nothing, I kept driving on and returned to port, saddened. Disappointed. Yet, what would I have done if I saw him, anyway? Ducked down and prayed he didn’t see me? As if he’d say, “Oh, just an old rusted-out 94 Geo driving itself. Hmm. Perfectly normal!” I wasn’t exactly traveling incognito in my borrowed car. I was actually just hoping to see his car parked outside his home and somehow find comfort in knowing he was safe. No such luck.

Okay, maybe that was a little stalkery. Still, I didn’t wait outside his house like I was casing the joint, so I should at least get credit for not being totally crazy.

As I mentioned before, there is a duality to living without NP.

There’s a likelihood that I may never see him again, and if I do, it might be in real life, not in a therapy session. (If he loses his license, his personal practice is lost).

So a part of me — a wee, tiny, strengthening part of me — wants to show him what I can really do. I want to lose weight, get serious about this diet of mine, so the next time I do see him, I can look so much improved.

For some reason, in the last two days or so, I’ve become determined to carry on despite myself. I have stood straighter. I try to attend to situations like a grown-up, not like a scared little girl hiding at the bottom of a Vicodin bottle.

I want to be the legendary Phoenix rising from the ashes. I want my life to get much, much better. To get that car that The Butthead promised me (and I’m willing to hold back on working for him until he makes good on it). I am going to get a better job. Make more money. Look gorgeous. And walk into wherever he is and knock his socks off. Show him that all that therapy — all that work — wasn’t for nothing.

Because at the end of the day, the Square-Jawed NP saved my life. Regardless of what happened in his office or why he was fired, to me, the bottom line is: he saved me because he took  an interest in me when no one else did. Sure, I was paying him, but he provided over-and-above service for a medication management guy. There was something special — a repartee — that went on between the two of us. Maybe it was my imagination. Or maybe my charm won him over. All I know is, without him being MORE than just a medication management dude, I would have gone back out and used. If he hadn’t pushed me to attend AA, to quit using, holding me accountable, talking to me, badgering me, giving me the stink-eye when he thought I was just making excuses, I’d probably be hospitalized again for loperamide overdose, or I’d be dead from it. Any other med management dude would have just handed me a prescription and sent me on my way. He didn’t. And that has made all the difference in the world to me.

Because despite all that’s happened, and how crappy I feel (and I can’t overstate that), I have not used. I didn’t go out and find some Vicodin — even though I know where I can get some — and I didn’t decide to go back on loperamide. No drugs.

I have, however, smoked, and drank the occasional Margarita. I have also taken my hydroxyzine (for anxiety). And I have eaten chocolate. And okay, I had a brief, stalkery moment. But I have not gone off the deep end into drug abuse, and for that, I have him to thank.

I want to find him. I want to tell him what he meant to me — what he STILL means to me. (And God help him if he really did molest a patient. I’ll bury him myself.)

Moreover, I want answers. And I’m sorry, but I won’t rest until I get them. As I continue to strengthen myself, I pray I can handle what I discover.

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“You have seen my descent.
Now watch my rising.” — Rumi

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Politics, Departures, and the Lying Lie-Tellers who Tell Lies

The gay guy is back.

Longtime readers may recall a certain gay man who screwed me over years ago, leading me to have a nervous breakdown and quickly fall into a drug-induced spectacularly pathetic fall from grace. The nutshell of the story, for those among you who don’t know, is that he embezzled the profits from a show we did together, then kicked me out of my own company for getting mad about it — or as he put it, because I “went crazy”. L-o-n-g story.

Well, THAT guy? Well… uh… yeah… He’s back.

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Future Mayor?

Let’s name him Butthead.

Mr. Butthead called me about two months ago, out of the clear blue sky. Prior to that I’d only received a text message as part of a group invitation to his Christmas party. I did not go, of course. And before that? Well, we’d occasionally see each other out at different places and say our hellos. I’ve gotten over my desire to gut him like a fish so we can carry on conversation without my eyes shooting death rays at him — but nothing else. Hearing from him out of the blue like that, I knew he wanted something — badly.

Butthead confessed to me that he’d decided he wanted to run for mayor of our crummy burg and he called me in desperate hope I would agree to be his campaign manager.

Yes, really. He really had the gall to do that. Nothing nothing nothing, then POOF he needs me, right?

He lured me with flattery, as is his game, telling me I was such a genius at PR and he couldn’t possibly pull this off without me.

Since I hadn’t seen him in so long, I was admittedly curious what would compel him to make such a strange decision, so I agreed to talk to him about it, but nothing more.

I have to be honest with you, Butthead’s flattery was tempting. You know how long it’s been since someone remembered that I used to be really, really good at something? And trusted me to do it?

Initially, I was highly resistant. In fact, after our first meeting to discuss it, I felt kinda sick to my stomach. I had such a bad feeling about it, I said no. I walked away saying, that, if Butthead wanted to pass an idea or two by me, I could help, but otherwise, I liked where my life was going at the time and had no interest taking on such a large project (least of all with him).

Then shit started to unravel on me.

My life, which was going along pretty well, began to falter. I had told The Stalker (my Gentleman Caller) about what happened, and told him that I’d kicked Butthead to the curb for the last and final time. Then, Stalker stopped calling me. No explanation. No reasoning. Nothing. Just gone. I liked where things were going with Stalker so you can imagine how confused I was. What did I do? I did the right thing, didn’t I?

About a week after that happened, I was invited to sit in on a campaign meeting with Butthead. What the hell, I thought, it can’t hurt. And by that point, I had nothing better to do — and no longer had any reason not to. Never let it be said that I wasn’t at least a little masochistic. Self-punishment, perhaps, for being such a loser that I chased my Stalker friend away?

So I went to the meeting. I sat at the table with his team and managed, somehow, to be the only sober person in the room, and therefore, the one who made the most common sense out of things. By keeping the meeting in focus, I found myself in the heady position of being called brilliant by all in attendance, and it was re-emphasized how important my presence was there. And I friggin’ hate politics. But the social intrigue, the psychological aspect of it, it held a certain appeal.

I was indeed flattered. But still hesitant.

More people leave.

My work partner Kit resigned. Yep, Kit, the one work partner that I was finally able to bond with and become good friends with, who gave me hope, made me hate my job a little less, and unlike my previous partner, treated me like a team member and not her personal slave, decided to quit. Within two weeks, she was gone. Poof! Just… gone.

I found myself becoming more intertwined with Butthead’s campaign. One thing led to another thing. Soon, I wasn’t just advising and guiding, I was leading and working on logos and slogans. It was like stretching long-abandoned wings and flying through the sky; tentative, a little faltering, then soaring. For a few brief moments, I felt like ME again. I begin going to Butthead’s house a couple times a week serving as “PR Consultant”. To be honest, I was having fun. I was in the muck again, using my big brain to answer questions that hadn’t even been asked yet. Brilliant zingers, strategizing approaches, staying one step ahead of his competition.

And once again, I found I liked being in Butthead’s company. He can be a lot of fun. Butthead and I had always gotten along well, having very similar twisted senses of humor. It was nice to laugh so hard again. And without Stalker and Kit, who exactly was I laughing with anymore?

Butthead accompanied me to a Democratic fancy-dress-up fundraising dinner. I wore the black Marilyn-style date dress that I’d bought a couple of months ago originally intended for someone else. I showed serious cleavage. I teetered around in four-inch heels. I drank cranberry juice. It wasn’t fun, but I liked dressing up. I almost felt cared about. I walked away bored with the politics and thinking virtually everyone in the room were nothing but scheming, lying, selfish, self-serving assholes.

Meanwhile, Aunt and Uncle Crazypants continued their mental and physical decline. They have been falling almost every day. And the dementia has worsened (Uncle in particular has severe aphasia and has begun hallucinating). They refuse to let me help them, so in desperation, I called both the County Office of the Aging and even called in the “Big Guns” — Adult Protective Services — and all for naught. Auntie and Uncle’s children refuse to do anything about it, and apparently since Auntie and Uncle totally refuse help, neither COA nor APS can do a damned thing. So Auntie and Uncle refuse to bathe, wear the same clothes for weeks on end, never take their medication right, eat spoiled moldy food that’s been left out for days because they forgot to refrigerate it, and have a house that’s filthy and stinky (smells like rotting food, feces, and urine). I have given up. I can’t help them if they refuse it. At the advice of Therapist Barbie, I have reduced my visits there to no more than an hour or two at a time. I can’t take it anymore.

So in walks Butthead with his shiny new project. And I do love a challenge. How to get a gay Democratic underdog elected to the traditionally Conservative town’s highest position. And how to pull it off when I’m already handicapped by some other people’s bad ideas? He plied me with another fancy dinner at a four-star restaurant and a nightclub with a few of our friends. He’s very good at making me feel wanted.

The only problem was, I wasn’t getting paid.

Dinners are great, don’t get me wrong. But it doesn’t pay the electric bill. Money has become central to my every day worries. From bus money to food money to rent money — I never, ever have enough. So I started to wonder if there was some way to make this campaign gig into a money-making venture. As Heath Ledger’s Joker said in The Dark Knight, — “If you’re good at something, never do it for free.”

But how could I get paid if there’s no money in the grassroots coffers? I set my mind to work on an idea.

Two more favorite co-workers decide to leave.

One of the guys I work with, who is so much fun to be around, moved to the late-night shift, so I won’t see him at all anymore. After losing Kit, I was crushed by this one. And as if losing those two wasn’t enough, yet another girl (who’d been at the Thrift Store even longer than I) had decided to quit. She was a terrific ally and friend.

For a person like me with existing abandonment issues, none of this was going over well. My footing on this “happy” ground was becoming very, very unsteady.

I began questioning how I was going to get out of that job myself. How would I ever improve my life if I couldn’t find a way to earn more money? Then the light bulb went on.

bright_ideaI remembered, Butthead had one thing I want more than money. He has an extra vehicle he’s been itching to sell. What if I could offer to work in exchange for a car? I had to exploit his need for me to get what I wanted. I don’t normally play games, but this was important. With a car, there’s power. I can get a better job. I can go places. Do things. Get bargains. Move. Attend off-campus classes. I can have freedom — and a golden ticket out of the dump I’m in.

I want that car.

I carefully approached Butthead with the proposal, and somehow managed to make him think the whole thing was his idea. The real selling point was that I’d be willing to put full force into his campaign efforts. I was betting, based on how much I know him, that he wants that job badly enough to sacrifice something big to have my big brain on his side. The gamble paid off.

One major repair needs to be made to the car before it’s drive-able, then he’s basically going to let me have it — in the best way possible. He’ll hold the title and insurance, but I can drive as long as I put gas in it and do the regular oil changes. That’s it. It takes all the financial burden off of me and provides me with freedom wheels. And when I have a better job and more money, I can either opt to buy it, or hand the keys back over and buy something else. It’s perfect. As long as it works out, that is.

I have found myself in the unique position of not needing someone as much as they need me. And it’s a good feeling. Powerful. Strong. Confident.

Then the very worst news of all came to light. 

shoshanYesterday, I had a phone call. The Square-Jawed NP is gone.

Poof! Gone! No explanation, no warning. His appointments have been cancelled and they aren’t making new ones. Moreover, they’re saying nothing except they don’t know when or if he’ll be back. Something catastrophic happened — either professionally or personally — and nobody will tell me (or any other patients) anything. And while I know he’s been busy opening up his own private practice, NP had reassured me he would be staying where he was for at least a couple more months. Did he lie? Or did something else happen? I have no idea except it looks really bad. Professional misconduct? Personal illness? I will likely never know the real answer to that.

I am utterly shattered. I worry that something happened to him, but mostly, I admit, I worry for myself. The last of my strength against my abandonment issues crumbled. I suddenly didn’t care about anything or anyone. School? Why bother? Cutting? Sure, why not? Drugs? Well… okay, no not really; that I’ll stay away from. But hey! Give me a cigarette and I’ll smoke that sucker to a nub! If it’s legal and it’s self-destructive, let me at it! Where’s that cheesecake? Fuck my diet. Why should I care when obviously no one else does either?

About two months ago, NP presented me with a beautiful leather-bound journal and a lovely personal note inside. I was so flattered — it was such a sweet gesture. He said he was so pleased with my efforts and wanted me to have a journal to write about my progress. But I look back now and wonder if he gave me this as a goodbye gift? Did he know he was leaving but lied to me when he said he wasn’t? And if that was the case, how much of what he said at any time were lies?? Were the words in that kind note fiction too?

So, feeling frustrated, sad, and lonely last night, I went over to Butthead’s house and got my drink on. Yes, me. Little Miss “Yes, I’m a Drug Addict But no, I’m not an Alcoholic Even Though I’m in AA, and Besides, I Don’t Drink Because it Gives My Delicate Head A Migraine.” Yes, that me. Fuck that shit, I wanted to get good and toasted. So I took a couple of pre-emptive aspirins, then Butthead made REAL Strawberry Margaritas, and I drank a very large one. Never in my life have I enjoyed an alcoholic beverage more. Apparently, I was quite amusing.

The old me is coming back. Well, sort of. An older, wiser, less trusting, slightly more bitter and definitely crankier version of me.

Without NP, there’s nobody left who will see or care either way. No witnesses to my rise from the ashes. Just me.

And I had so wanted to walk into the NP’s office with my new keys in hand, announcing my simultaneous success of obtaining a vehicle and vanquishing my old enemy.

But that’s all gone now.

The last of the worthy people who knew the real me and still liked me are gone. Or at least that’s how it feels. I am unceremoniously tossed back into the world alone once again. This is a repeating pattern in my life that is inescapably notable now that I’m sober. The bad ones stay, the good ones always leave. Is it me? Do I have some kind of cosmic kryptonite surrounding me that causes all my super heroes to discard me so easily? Parents, siblings, boyfriends, friends, coworkers, and now my trusted medication management ersatz therapist friend. I am not enough for them to stay. It seems I have nothing they want.

But Butthead wants the one thing I do have to offer: my brain. It’s sad, but my only remaining valuable asset is now up for grabs in trade for a box on wheels. To the rest of the world, I’m worth nothing — absolutely not worth a damned penny — not even worthy enough for common conversation — but Butthead remembers what I could really do. And that makes me feel like all is not lost.

And that’s why Butthead is back in my life.

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You have so many gifts, intellect and artistic qualities. You deserve all of the wonderful things that life has to offer, and I hope that you find them.” — Part of a note to me from The Square Jawed NP

My answer to him:

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You sit on a throne of LIES!!

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Random Quote of the Day

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“A most mediocre person can be the object of a love which is wild, extravagant, and beautiful as the poison lilies of the swamp.”

— Carson McCullers “Ballad of the Sad Cafe and Other Stories”

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An Ordinary Kid on an Ordinary Day

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This week, a young man died. In many ways, he was just like most kids his age. He was 27-years-old, the only child from a loving family in a suburb near the midwest; he loved gaming and was a sales clerk. He loved technology — the kind of kid who could probably fix your computer, teach you what to do with that iPad you just bought, and set up your new surround sound system, all while updating his Facebook page, texting a friend, and simultaneously calling another. I don’t know if he had any particular dreams or goals, but I bet he had them. Maybe his dreams never extended beyond wanting to be happy and laugh at funny jokes. He was a handsome kid with bright blue eyes and sandy blonde hair.

Then, on one quite ordinary day in May 2015, that young man died from cardiac arrest, suspected secondary to loperamide abuse/overdose. He’d been hospitalized twice before and almost died from the same thing. Neither his doctors nor his family could understand, didn’t know what was going on.

Like most addicts, this handsome, sandy-haired young man tried to hide the fact that he was sick. He lied to people and hid and denied his addiction the best he could. His family was helpless against this unknown enemy. His final post on Facebook detailed his frustration as, apparently, his parents were taking steps to try to control his usage and help him. Ultimately, it didn’t work. He died the next day.

I didn’t know this young man. I wish I had. I would have noticed his pinned pupils. I would have noticed the bottles on his shelf or empty in the trash. I could have talked to him about the loperamide. I could have tried to shake him out of his tree, addict-to-addict. I could have provided hope and encouragement. I want to reach out to him and reassure him that there’s a life beyond addiction that honestly does not suck as much as he thinks it will. That he’ll be okay! It’ll all be okay! Say something. Anything. But sometimes, despite all efforts, it still doesn’t work.

I receive quite a bit of mail like the one that prompted this article. Parents worried about their kids, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, friends — most from the addicts themselves, worried, scared, and needing help where there appears to be none at all.

This week I also received a letter from a new mother who was addicted to loperamide and whose baby was born also addicted to it. Again, doctors are baffled. I’m not.

Loperamide abuse, unlike pain pill addiction or heroin (and other hard drug) addictions, is an underground disorder. It’s sneaky and quiet. And perfectly legal. As a drug-of-choice, it isn’t flashy like bath salts, nor is it well known or respected within the medical community as the “public health danger”1 it is, like heroin. This is partly because it’s relatively new, but also because, loperamide addicts are afraid to speak up for fear of being laughed at — or at the very least, not being taken seriously — so they rarely report. Who wants to be known as a poop-pill addict? But as noted by character Walter White in the series Breaking Bad, “you must respect the chemistry”.

Loperamide, the active ingredient in Imodium, is an over-the-counter medication marketed and widely used as an anti-diarrheal. It also happens to be an opiate — though, theoretically, it can’t make you high. However that hasn’t stopped people from trying. Suggestions have been disseminated among internet discussion groups for how to “mega-dose” loperamide — take it in extremely high quantities — to achieve a high of sorts. And it works. Some try to use loperamide like this recreationally (sometimes combined with something like grapefruit juice or Tagamet in an attempt to ‘boost’ the euphoric effects); others use it as a “poor man’s Methadone” to ameliorate the symptoms of opiate withdrawal. Many end up hopelessly addicted to it.

Each bottle has 200 pills, equaling 2800 pills in one sold package.

Each bottle has 200 pills, equaling 2800 pills in one item offered through Amazon. If you took one pill (a normal dose for diarrhea) and decided to do that every single day, it would take you 3 1/2 years to finish this much! Does anyone using it normally really need that much at once?

And it’s perfectly legal. And cheap! And sold in quantity. Compare one pill being the normal dose for diarrhea, you will find addicts commonly taking 72 tablets or 144 tablets at once (this is the largest size commonly sold in drug stores and at Walmart). Some take much more. You can order loperamide online at Amazon right now in quantities as large as 2800 tablets at once for the low-low price of about $25 bucks (though I’ve personally seen offers of 10,000 pills and up). And yes, anyone can buy them with just a press of a button. They make it easy to get addicted to those mega-doses. All very quiet, secretive, and “normal” arriving in a plain brown box right to your doorstep. (I used to tell people they were vitamins.)

Aside from gross availability, the medical community has only been spottily aware of the problem of loperamide addiction for the last two years. My doctors at Upstate Medical University Hospital in Syracuse NY were the first to widely disseminate their research after my case was reported at the Clinical Toxicology conference in 2013. Since then, there have been other cases seen throughout the country including several more at Upstate — nearly all with life-threatening arrhythmias. Some die.

It happens often after chronic overdose use of loperamide. The usage itself, relatively uneventful, growing or maintaining over months. Then one day, you’re feeling sick, as if you’re getting the stomach flu. Sometimes in just a day. Sometimes two. You’re sleepy all the time. You get this sinking, cold feeling in your gut. Then suddenly, you wake up gasping for air. You’ve fainted. Your heart rate has slowed to 30 beats per minute or less. The heart’s electrical system short-circuited. You’re in a cardiac arrhythmia (most often ventricular tachycardia). Sometimes it degenerates further into an even worse arrhythmia called Torsade. Unaided by medical intervention, the heart stops and you go out again. Sometimes the heart restarts spontaneously, but if it keeps up without medical intervention, you will die.

A hospital visit is the only way to survive.

But, sadly, if a person addicted to loperamide were to actively seek help from an addiction specialist at a rehab or detox center to get off the drug, they’d likely be turned away. Why? Because many working in the field of addiction still don’t know about or understand loperamide. It isn’t their fault — the word just hasn’t gotten out yet. If a patient presents in an ER in cardiac arrest, loperamide won’t show on a normal tox screen, so it’s often overlooked during the differential. It’s happened. I’ve seen it. They just don’t know to ask. They don’t know what they don’t know.

I have been haunted by some of the letters I receive, especially lately. Some people send letters that I respond to but I never hear back. Some write back and update me on how they’re doing (both good and bad). And still others — ones like this — get under my skin. I’m angry and saddened; I’ve actually cried for this young man whom I have never met, and I’ve felt his pain and the pain of the parents and loved ones who had to bury him this week.

I know because I was just like that young man once. I was taking 144 tablets a day when I went into cardiac arrest at home. At the hospital, I was defibrillated 28 times wide awake and lucid for the experience. I had to be put on life support for three days. I crawled back to life through a soupy, thorned hell of my own creation. If it weren’t for the quick-thinking ER physicians at my town’s Memorial Hospital and the incredibly intelligent staff, doctors, and toxicologists at Upstate, I wouldn’t be here today. With aftercare provided by my own Square-Jawed NP who has closely monitored my recovery — I owe them all my life. Literally.

It is survivable. You can recover. Spread the word. Start the discussion.

If you are addicted to loperamide, see your GP or someone in the recovery field. Bring a printout of the most current Loperamide Medical Articles (PDF) with you to your physician, therapist, nurse, or rehab person.

Recovery from loperamide follows the same approach as normal opiate withdrawal only it lasts longer due to the drug’s prolonged half-life. Supportive medications such as Clonidine, Hydroxyzine, etc. ease the recovery. No suboxone necessary. You can tell that to your medical professional as well.

If you recover with help from the medical community both sides win — they learn, you live — and it saves other lives as well. Like some sandy-haired young man of 27 that you have never met.

He was just an ordinary kid on an ordinary day. It could have been someone you love. It could be you.

Be safe, and God Bless.

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“It’s getting critical
Takes a minute for it to set in
I’m unpredictable

And I’m dyin’ just tryin’ to feel alive again.”

                                            –“Critical”, Travie McCoy
(among that young man’s list of favorite musical artists)

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NEW Loperamide Articles in the Literature, May 2015

lopemicroAh! It’s the first of the month — and means it’s New Article Publishing time! Three new loperamide abuse articles to report on for May.

Be sure to check out the full list of articles in the ARTICLE CLEARINGHOUSE.

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loptab3Loperamide toxicokinetics: serum concentrations in the overdose setting.

Eggleston W1, Nacca N, Marraffa JM.
Clin Toxicol (Phila). 2015 Mar 30:1-2. [Epub ahead of print]

Clinical Toxicology

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loptab3Reply to: “Torsade de Pointes Associated with High‐dose Loperamide Ingestion”

Jeanna M. Marraffa, PharmD, Dabat, Michael G Holland, MD, Michael J Hodgman, MD, Upstate Medical University, Syracuse, New York, NY
Accepted 
March 16, 2015.
Journal of Innovations in Cardiac Rhythm Management, 5 (2015), 1958

“These reports underscore the need for further investigation of the cardiac effects of high‐dose loperamide. Further research into the mechanism of both QRS widening and QTc prolongation is warranted. Clinicians need to consider loperamide abuse in otherwise healthy patients with syncope or ventricular arrhythmias, especially those with a history of drug abuse or opioid dependence.”

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loptab3CASE REPORT: Loperamide dependence and abuse
Ryan MacDonald1, Jason Heiner2, Joshua Villarreal3, Jared Strote2
1Department of Emergency Medicine, Madigan Army Medical Center, Tacoma, Washington, USA ; 2Division of Emergency Medicine, Department of Medicine, University of Washington, Seattle, Washington, USA; 3Department of Pharmacy, University of Washington Medical Center, Seattle, Washington, USA
Published 2 May 2015

BMJ Case Reports 2015; doi:10.1136/bcr-2015-209705

“Summary: …. A 26-year-old man who was taking 800 mg of loperamide per day presented requesting detoxification referral. Loperamide has potential for euphoric effects and information on how to facilitate such effects is easily available. It is important for physicians to be aware of the potential for misuse of and dependence on loperamide, with symptoms mimicking opiate use.”

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Alcoholic Snobbery

beerAbout a month ago, I was invited to be the guest speaker at my AA group’s monthly speaker’s meeting in May. It’s a big deal to be asked to do this; it would be considered insufferably rude to turn down such a generous invitation.

I had no idea what I was going to say — after all, alcohol isn’t really my problem, though it was years ago. I’m not a hardcore boozehound like most of the people in AA. So, given that I didn’t know what to do, I put off planning my speech.

With all that had happened last month, I got distracted. I finally realized it was only one week off, and thought, Oh crap. What am I going to say? Well, certainly I’ve told stories before. Certainly I’ve told MY story before. I could wing it. Right?

Except yesterday, I was not in the mood for winging it. If I had my druthers, I would have stayed hom. I’d had a shit day at work full of stupid people and tension. My boss is mad at someone. My co-worker Kit is mad at my boss (and is subsequently quitting). And me? I’m caught in the middle trying to keep “Mom and Dad” from fighting and getting a divorce. Add to that all the usual foolishness and by the time I was ready to go home, I was crumbling.

So after work, I left, went to the store, and bought a pack of cigarettes.

OK, here’s the thing: I don’t smoke. Back in my 20’s when I used to drink, I smoked a bit, not seriously, so I’m not really sure why. Maybe I thought it made me look worldly or something. It didn’t. Maybe it was some kind of punishment. I don’t know. The only real result was, when combined with booze, I would wake up the next day with a hangover, cotton mouth, and smelling like a stale ashtray.

Still, I sat out in that beautiful sunshine yesterday, pissed off at myself and the world, and I lit up. As I took a deep drag on that cigarette, I was immediately mentally immersed right back into 1990 while I lived on the lake at the height of my alcoholic experience, expecting to hear Bonnie Raitt singing Love Has No Pride over the stereo speakers while I took a long sip of an ice cold Coors Light, the first of at least a dozen that night. Oh! How I loved to sing out my blues songs when I was feeling bad and needed to feel worse!

But yesterday, just the smoke. No beer. No lake. No music.

They teach us in AA that we need to watch out for hunger, anger, loneliness, and tiredness — HALT is the acronym. Well, I’d hit the quadfecta. I was all of those things yesterday.

The cigarette made my mouth feel like an ashtray. I didn’t care. I wanted to feel like shit. I wanted to be covered in it. Who cared? What did it matter? It was the only legal drug I had left in my arsenal — nicotine — and I intended to use it. Kit had been trying to quit smoking; she’d been using the patch all week and finally caved yesterday because of all the stress in the air. I guess I figured I’d join her in spirit if not in person.

I felt alternately light-headed and awake. Very awake. I realized that I needed to get my act in gear because cancelling my Speaker’s meeting wasn’t going to be an option. So I closed the pack of smokes and prepared for the meeting.

I scribbled a few notes, nothing much, just trying to remember a few key incidents so I didn’t get off on too much of a tangent. Speakers are expected to use up the better part of an hour — and for me, getting storytelling, I could easily take up that time without blinking.

But what to talk about? I wasn’t much of an alcoholic. Frankly, I wasn’t much of an opiate addict either. But what did they want as an audience? A few laughs? A few tears? I’ve been to a few speaker’s meetings, and they all are a little different.

I arrived about 10 minutes early and was hurriedly escorted inside upon arrival with the leader concerned with my tardiness. What tardiness? I was early! Apparently not.

The meeting began almost right away. They did the usual readings and led right into me. I took my notes and went to the head of the room where no podium or table had been set up for me (guess maybe that’s why I should have been there early). So I started talking. Luckily for me, I’ve never been afraid to speak before a crowd. Public speaking has never been the source of any fear for me. But I could tell almost from the very start that I didn’t have these people. Not one bit. They looked miserable like they all wanted to go home. One lady turned her chair toward me with a smile on her face — there was someone I could talk to. Most of the rest never turned their chairs. One lady walked out about five minutes in.

So I told my story. I was born, I grew up, I was a teenager, I drank, I went to work, I drank some more, then I got into pills. Then I got sick and got more pills. Then I quit work, sold my house, lost all my things, used loperamide, died and came back, used lope again, then almost died again, got into AA, got clean, life is better now, the end. All in all, about a half-hour. I told my substance abuse story, not my life story. So I made perfect time.

How did I do? Pretty badly in my opinion. Nobody looked at me. I cracked a couple of jokes which received a smattering of giggles, but it was a tough room. How do you talk to a room of people when half of them are eating and not even looking at you? Rude!

Afterward, very few people stopped me to say anything. Most left. One lady backhandedly made excuses for me saying “It’s 2015; not everybody just drinks anymore.” Uh-oh. I screwed something up. I thought. Another gentleman came up to me and accused me of all the usual AA-related shit — needing to be more involved, do more service, etc. He actually pointed to the women in the kitchen who were doing cleanup and said “That’s the most important job here — you should be doing that.” Now I was getting mad. I wanted to snap at him and tell him if it’s so important, why isn’t HE in there cleaning up? The utter gall of some of these old timers!

I talked to one of the guys from my home group when I left and said, “Look, I did the best I could. I’m only sharing what they said they wanted: Experience, Strength, and Hope.” He agreed and assured me I did a fine job, but I know otherwise.

But I don’t care. My story is my story. If it’s not good enough for them — if I didn’t drink enough, get DWIs, kill people, destroy more lives — and my inability to commit more chaos in my life isn’t enough, then that’s their problem. Funny how these drunks can get so friggin’ fussy about whom they consider a real addict — and how snobby they are about people who are addicted to more than one thing. They draw this invisible yet distinctive line between themselves and those scummy drug addicts as if there is a line to be drawn in the first place. Oh for God’s sake, get over yourselves!

The good news is, they’ll probably NEVER ask me to do that again. And if I get kicked out of AA today at noon for not being what they consider a true alcoholic, let ’em kick. Go ahead; make my day.

So no, I do not feel guilty or badly that I was unable to meet their expectations. They asked for my story, and they got it. Can’t relate? Too bad. What’s true is true.

I can only be who I am. And if that’s not good enough for the world, then they can all go suck it. Trust me, I can stick my nose up in the air too and shut the whole world out.

Why should anyone be defined by their drug of choice? Substance abuse isn’t the beginning nor should it be the end of my story. My life is full of plenty of life experiences. Some good, some bad. Drinking didn’t cause nor destroy who I am — and neither did opiates or loperamide. Why so many alcoholics and addicts define themselves primarily as one or the other and let this become who they are is beyond me. I have no interest in such things. I don’t want to go to every meeting. I don’t want to attend every conference or be at every event. I have a life now. I’m glad my life is moving forward and away from those things. I have goals. I have dreams that I’m working toward. And yes, not everything is working out, but I keep trying. Isn’t that what we’re all supposed to do? Really?

I want people in my life — people I care for. People who are funny and charming and think the world is a weird place like I do. People who aren’t liars or cheats or assholes. Who don’t define themselves by the worst they’ve done but by the best they can do.

It is with great sadness and grief that I have had to leave some very extraordinary people behind — often without my own consent — but others… they’re just a few steps away.

Now where’s that cigarette pack? I need to find someone else who can use it

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“Fine times have gone and left my sad home
And the friends who once cared just walk out my door
Love has no pride when I call out your name.”

— “Love Has No Pride” by Eric Kaz, Libby Titus

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